Easy 3 piece roast.

Easy 3 piece Roast:

You only need 3 things: a roast, Tony Chachere's, and frozen stew veggies. 

I breaded the roast in coconut flour (optional) and Tony Chachere's Creole seasoning. Then I braised the outside of the roast in my dutch oven.

I buy the cheap frozen veggies from Reasor's (Shur Fine Brand)

Once the beef has braised, I add the frozen veggies and cover with water. 

Simmer 3-4 hours on low- med. low until beef pulls apart with a fork. 

I used two bags of veggies for this because it was a large roast. We had plenty of leftovers and everyone in the house enjoyed it. Even my picky toddler! You can use fresh veggies if you would like, but this saves money and time because the packs of veggies cost about $1 each. Then you also don't have to chop anything. This is great for a Saturday afternoon when you have guests over and want something easy to throw together beforehand that you won't have to babysit. It also freezes well for later use if you don't want to eat it all right now. We are always making big batches and freezing in those stackable Glad food storage systems. 

Sometimes you just gotta lick the bowl.

Today we made a cake. With a one year old. That is all.

Here is a link to the video where he gets pissed that I didn't let him throw grass in the bowl:

https://youtu.be/S4R0dT36YCg

Sometimes it hurts.

I was in an abusive relationship and I didn't even know it. I can imagine, there are probably people reading this thinking "what kind of moron doesn't know they are being abused?" I will tell you. I'm not an idiot, although I may be a bit naive at times. It all started out so innocently. We met at a bar, and there were a few small red flags. Emphasis on small. There were also quite a few good things, at least, I thought they were good things. Like the fact that he seemed so accepting of my daughter. On our second date, I told him that she needed a daddy and that I didn't want to get into a relationship with someone who wouldn't be that for her. He said that he loved her and loved kids. He said that she was more than welcome to call him daddy. Of course, all of this changed when we split up. 

 I can't believe I didn't catch any of the red flags. How did I miss the fact that when he got angry, he would routinely punch holes in the wall, or throw whatever he was holding? How did I miss the part where he got so much enjoyment out of scaring my poor dog? I ended up having to get rid of my dog because he was constantly scaring him and making it to where the dog was fearful of everything.

I was so excited at the idea of getting married and having a family that I didn't bother to worry about who I was marrying. Less than two months into our relationship, he was willing to get married. He didn't propose, he just said let's do it. Of course, I followed blindly and ended up pregnant right away.

I very vividly remember the first time someone pointed out to me that he was abusive. It came from a friend who was in no better of a relationship than I was. At least she had the brains to know what she was in. Her husband was a severe alcoholic who had cheated on her several times. And yet, this girl was pointing out the fact that my husband was controlling and that it worried her. She said as bad as her husband was, he would never talk to her the way that Brad talked to me. When I got off the phone with her, I cried inconsolably at the realization I just had.

It is so easy to justify everything. I remember thinking that he would grow up eventually and grow out of his temper. I remember thinking that I needed to be more careful so that I wasn't provoking him. I remember thinking "this isn't abuse, its just a little shove." And "at least he's not leaving bruises." And the ever so common "if I just keep the baby out of the bedroom, she won't disturb him and he won't have to yell at me." 

He lied to me before we got married. He told me the house he was living in was his, when I ended up finding out that it was his dads house all along and he just lived in one of the back bedrooms. He would invite me over when nobody was home and showed me around claiming that the master bedroom was his. Among the other things that he lied to me about; he told me that he also owned property that ended up belonging to his brother. He told me that the herd of cows on that property were his and that his brother was living there as his ranch hand. After a few weeks of marriage, all of this stuff started coming to light. It was like a whirlwind in my head. I wanted to leave and I wanted out of this mess I had gotten myself into. I decided I was going to get out and annul the marriage. But by then, I had found out I was pregnant. I really thought that once the baby was born, maybe he would grow up and become a more responsible person. It never happened.

The first time I tried to leave him, was when we got our first taxes. It was an extremely cold winter and our electric bill was very high. We were waiting on our tax return to pay the electric bill. I came home one day and it was 38 degrees inside my house. Our electricity had been shut off and when I called him, he told me there was no way we could pay it. I ended up going to stay with some relatives that night. While there, I logged into the bank account online. That's when I found out that our tax return had already hit the bank account and he had spent almost $1000 on random things that he decided to order online. I was so mad that he would put our children in jeopardy like that. I went home to confront him about it, and he seemed sorry at first. When we got in the car together and got on the highway, we began to argue again. He told me to stop the car and let him out, but I didn't listen. His answer was to grab my emergency brake and pull it up while we were driving down the highway. Both kids were in the back seat. My car spun out of control into a ditch and was eventually stopped by a barbed wire fence. He actually told me that he did it so that I would listen the next time he "gave me a command". (What am I, a dog??)

I packed the kids up and left. I went to stay with my grandparents and only ended up making it a week or so before he begged me to come back home. At this point, I actually had the upper hand for once. So I told him that I would come back on the condition that he attends marriage counseling, anger management, and financial counseling. He only went to one meeting for anger management and told me that the program was stupid and that he wasn't going back. We went to two marriage counseling sessions before he decided that the therapist and I were ganging up on him. The financial counseling, he actually finished. However, he never ended up putting any of it into practice. 

One day, he came home and said "I'm moving out." I was not going to beg him to stay, which apparently made him angry.

He cleaned out all of our bank accounts and hired a lawyer to take the kids away from me. It has been almost 2 years since I have seen my children.

Since he wouldn't let me work while we were married, I had no way to pay the bills and ended up getting evicted from our rental house. 

He and his lawyer lied to me. I was told that I would be allowed to watch the children while he was at work monday through friday. I was told that if I did not sign the divorce papers he had given me, that I would "never see those fucking kids again."

I didn't realize how bad things were until someone pointed it out to me. I called domestic violence intervention services for counseling on how to leave. They helped me to a certain extent, but there was no legal assistance without paying for it. I had nothing. I didn't know where to turn or what to do. I thought he would do what was right for the kids and let me see them during the week. I was wrong. He and his pregnant girlfriend packed up and moved to Ohio.

I am currently in a court battle with him to get my children back. I went to DVIS to get my records and ran through some of the things I had written about him. It still gives me chills when I read the question: do you think your partner would kill you? I checked yes.

When my current husband and I first started dating, it was pointed out to me exactly how damaged I was. I had no idea. I remember him getting so mad when I told him that if he wanted to go and "sew his wild oats", I would wait for him. My best friend was standing there when I said it and they both immediately began to lecture me on how wrong that was. I legitimately thought that it was totally OK. I thought "men have needs, if I can't meet those needs, I need to let him go out and get them met."

It's like my brain has been totally rewired. My husband now makes me stand up for myself. I would never take that behavior from him. I expect better from him because he has taught me that I deserve it.

I think it is easy for girls to say, "I would never let a man hit me, yell at me, shove me, threaten to kill me, or make me afraid to go home." But, until you are living it, you never know what you are willing to accept. It doesn't all start at once. These men ease you into it. Little by little, he tore down my walls. He made me think that I deserved everything that "happened" to me. He made me truly believe that this was a normal relationship. He convinced me that no one is really happy, but that everybody lies. He would point out my friends posting things on Facebook about how happy they were with their spouse, and say that they must be lying because they don't want anyone to know about their problems. Of course, I totally understood this. I never told anyone about the things he did to me. It was embarrassing. How could I let myself get this way? I remember thinking to myself God must be punishing me for something I did wrong.

I have court in a little less than a week. Hopefully, the judge will see what is right for these kids. Hopefully, I will get my babies back. Below, I will post some pictures from the last times that I have seen my kids. Hopefully, I will have a post coming soon with updated pictures of them.

Caveman Candy!!

Paleo almond joy. Oh.  Em. Ghee... Instructions below. Super freakin easy!!

First, I shredded my own coconut. I can't seem to find unsweetened, shredded coconut anywhere. If you can find it, more power to you!! I mixed in honey. Pure, raw, local honey is the best option. I mixed in about a tablespoon for a cup and a half of shavings. You can add more or less based on your preferences. 

Here it is all mixed up!! Yummy!

I used sliced almonds, but you could use whole if you'd like. I melt the dark chocolate in the microwave. I buy 85% coco and break it up into pieces. I start with one minute, but keep an eye on it. If it's not done after a minute, I add 30 seconds at a time until its all melty and goopy. 

Roll the coconut into balls and top with almonds. I made mine just a bit smaller than a ping pong ball. 

Coat the balls with the dark chocolate. I scoop and drizzle, then smooth it out with the spatula.

I pop them in the freezer for 10-15 minutes, then flip them over and put chocolate on the bottom. 

Viola! You now have caveman candy!! Enjoy! Let me know what you guys think in the comments!

A letter to my child with spina bifida

I want to take time to tell you how I feel about you. I know sometimes I'm super hard on you, but just know that it's because I love you and I know you are capable of so much!

People will tell you that you can't do things. Don't listen to them. It's going to happen. Just brush it off. Set your own limits. Don't ever let anybody take that power away from you.

There is no such thing as normal. Everyone is different. Just because you are more different than the majority, doesn't give you an excuse to throw a pity party for yourself.

Go ahead and throw that pity party. Because sometimes, you deserve it. Just don't do it too often.

Go to college. Get a real job. So you use a wheelchair? So what? Make your own way. Don't ever let anybody do that for you, or tell you that you can't.

No matter how bad you feel, someone out there is having a worse day than you. Still breathing? Good. Get over it. You're not dying because you had a tough day.

People stare. Stare back. It freaks them out. Seriously.

Get married. Have fun. Be happy. Do anything that makes you smile at the end of the day, regardless of the pay. If you follow your passion, the money will come. Be grateful. Don't ever, ever, ever take anything for granted. Each day is a gift. Even if you're in pain.

Whole 30 on a budget

So the whole 30 diet has been fun and I feel great, however, I'm two weeks in and we have already spent over a months worth of budget on our food. We snack on fruit all the time. There was a big bird flu epidemic, so eggs have skyrocketed. We have our own hens, but they aren't laying quite yet. Meat is always expensive. Especially if you want to buy organic like they suggest. So what is a mom to do? 

I'm trying to feed everyone healthy, but I can't keep going at this rate.

That being said; I will be posting some recipes for you guys on a budget to stay within the guidelines. 

I'm southern, so today's recipe reflects that with Southern fried pork steaks and cauliflower mash. Pork cube steaks were on sale for less than $2/lb this week, so that's what we bought.

For the pork:

I used a skillet on medium with coconut oil an inch deep.

I made a mixture of coconut flour and creole seasoning (check ingredients) to bread the steaks. (About 1 tablespoon seasonings per 1 cup flour)

I breaded them lightly by not dipping in an egg mixture. I just dusted both sides with it.

I fried until golden on each side, adding sliced onions and mushrooms to the skillet as I went along.

For the cauliflower mash:

The biggest time consumer here is boiling it. You boil your cauliflower until soft (about 20 minutes or so) I put a tablespoon of minced garlic in it while it's boiling to give some flavor.

When it's done boiling, you will strain it in a colander before putting it in a blender or food processor.

I used about a tablespoon of ghee for two heads of cauliflower. If you like it really buttery, you can add more. You will also want to add salt and pepper at this point along with a dollop of coconut cream. And I like to add parsley at this point for color.

Blend until smooth.

Enjoy!

Best Breakfast Sandwich Ever!!!!

Ok, I think this one will be easier just to explain step by step rather than listing a traditional recipe. I'll just make a shopping list at the bottom.


I start out by cooking the bacon in a pan. I use cast iron, but you can cook it in whatever pan you have.

While the bacon is browning, I pre-heat the oven to 350 and begin to slice the sweet potatoes. I try to pick out the fattest sweet potato I can find, so I have plenty of room for my sandwich. Slice it in 1/2-3/4 inch slices. I have a mandolin slicer, but I think that would be too thin to hold up to bacon and eggs piled on top.

I take a baking sheet and line it with foil and pour some melted coconut oil onto it. I lay the sweet potato slices out and swirl them around, then flip them so they get oil on both sides, then sprinkle with salt and pop it in the oven.

While those are baking for 20 mins or so, I start the eggs, I prefer a nonstick pan for those and I let them cook until the edges get bubbly (see photo) so that they will flip in big chunks. This way, the eggs aren't crumbling all over the place while you eat a sandwich.

As soon as the eggs and bacon are done, I like to wilt the greens in the bacon grease. It only takes a minute or so, and they go nicely on the sandwich and add some color to it. I like to buy a kale and baby spinach mix, but you can just choose to use baby spinach if you prefer.

I pile mine:

Bottom bun, bacon, egg, greens, top bun.

But you can do any order you'd like. Have fun and happy eating!

Shopping list:

1 fat sweet potato
3-4 eggs
1 package bacon
A couple tablespoons coconut oil
Baby spinach (kale optional)

Disney Cruise Lines

Where do I begin? This past year has been so hard on us. This blog is new, so I'm sure most of you reading this have no idea the turmoil my husband and I have been through.

First off, he is a disabled combat vet. We met a few years ago when he hired me to train his service dog. His disability worsened towards the end of last year and he was forced to leave his job. My dog training income was not enough to get us through, so we ended up homeless. We actually spent Thanksgiving and Christmas homeless. It was very hard. Especially with our two kids, one a baby and the older with Spina Bifida.

In January, while we were waiting for the VA to get his disability paperwork pushed through, his service dog was diagnosed with a form of elbow displays. He had to have a major surgery and then become retired.

Shortly after Heinrich had his surgery, Stephen was diagnosed with a condition with his heart. We were told this was a simple fix, though the problem was worse than what they usually see. When they went in to fix it, the repair didn't take and he ended up having to have emergency open heart surgery the same day. The doctors literally pulled me down into the OR and let me say goodbye before they put him back under. He was inches from death. He made a full recovery, though a slow process, he is getting better every day. 

We went online to look at cruises for our honeymoon "one of these days" He decided to check Disney's military discount and found a cruise we could afford and it was only a month away! We set sail June 6th (less than 4 months post op) and had a weeklong trip through the Eastern Caribbean. It was amazing. 

I can honestly say that after going on a Disney cruise, I will never go with another cruise line. The people were so incredibly nice, they took better care of us than I could have even dreamed and the amenities they offered on the ship were breathtaking. 

We had two small issues pop up with excursions (one was the fault of another guest) and they more than took care of us. And it was taken care of same day. Not one of those BS "I'll talk to the manager and get back to you eventually..." 

We met the Cruise Director, the Captain, a whole host of characters, and made friends we would have never even dreamed to meet. I'll let pictures describe the trip for you guys. If you are thinking about taking your family on a cruise, I highly endorse Disney. Totally worth the extra money!

 Our Stateroom

 Sail away party!

 We got to take cooking lessons from the Disney Executive chef Christine Weissman.

 Our servers Rakesh and Sukrawan

 Head Server Rui and Manager Plamen

 On top of St. Maarten

 We hiked down a mountain and when we got to the bottom, there were all these chickens. Stephen made fun of me because I was so excited about them!

 Random cow statue photo op.

 Sailing on St. Thomas

 The "Pitty Picture" 

 Cruise Director Ray and Captain Marco

 Sit. Stay. Good Pluto.

This cruise has totally transformed our year. Hard to believe a week of amazing could erase six months of crazy and pain.